Wednesday, April 27, 2011

We'll Have a Good Time

I lost someone who was one of the mother figures I've been lucky enough to have in my, for lack of another word, colorful, life. I stopped to see her in a Boston hospital on my way to the airport and sat with her for over an hour, looking at old pictures. Her last words to me were, "We'll have a good time."

She will unfortunately be remembered by a lot of people who didn't know her as something she wasn't, because part of her vast life story was made into someone else's movie. Like most characters, there was a shard of truth, and like most characters, a ton of falsehood. She was a mother to a lot of kids like me, and took in strays until the end. She was the only one who gave me hope that I would ever be pretty, taking me aside one day to tell me I wouldn't always be chubby, that I'd "slim down" and not to worry, I would be beautiful.

In the hospital, when she asked me to get her a cup of coffee, I jumped up to get one, because that's something we always did. The nurse laughed at me. "Coffee? No! You can feed her some ice chips." So I did, and rubbed her hair, because I knew that's what she liked. She fell asleep, and as I was leaving I told her not to worry, the house was clean.

Rest in peace, Alice.

13 comments:

FelixInHollywood said...

Oh baby, I'm soooo glad you had her. I'm equally as glad that you just shared her so poignantly with us. Love you. Call me if you need anything.

designing wally said...

Condolences & may your fond memories be ever vibrant.

normadesmond said...

oh god, how awful. i'm so sorry. it
is wonderful that you got to see her.

mrpeenee said...

I think everyone needs someone who will take them aside and promise that things are going to be ok.

Suzy Rust said...

Dear Alice, I'm glad you gave Donna hope, you sound like a wonderful being.

ayeM8y said...

Aww, that's very sad indeed. Wonderful that you had her in your life and let's hope that Alice will have a good time in her afterlife.

So sorry for your loss.

ilduce said...

Sweetie I am so glad you had her in your life and so sorry for your loss. Anyone who's asking for coffee till the very end is a-ok in book!

Donna Lethal said...

Thanks everyone! Mr. Peenee, you really hit it. She was the only one and I'm lucky enough I got to thank her for that. Most people never get the chance.

Mavis Martini said...

Oh, I wondered if you knew her when I read about her the other day. Bless her heart...and yours!

normadesmond said...

i hadn't realized who you were
speaking of until i saw the obit.

Thombeau said...

You were both blessed to have known each other. Never forget that.

Donna Lethal said...

I'm sure her obit left out 90% of her, as did that terrible portrayal, which, in her words to me, "made it look like I didn't love ALL of my kids." She loved me and a quite a few others.

Carrie said...

So sorry for your loss. Let your good memories be a cushion. I'm sure you made her life better as much as she did yours.